Are you having as much sex as your friends? Are you experimenting with sex toys as often? Should you branch out beyond the bedroom? Still, you may start to worry when things hit a screeching halt between the sheets. So the question still stands: How often should happy couples really be having sex? We talked to several relationship experts to figure out the magic number, why it fluctuates, and what a healthy sex life should look like.
How Often Married Couples Have Sex After 5, 10, 20, 30 Years Together
What Marital Sex Statistics Can Reveal
If you're married and not very happy with your sex life at the moment, it's normal to wonder about Here's what we know about how often married couples have sex, according to research and experts. But first an important note: "It's important to know that a normal sexual frequency is determined by what the couple agrees is mutually satisfying," sexologist Shamyra Howard, LCSW , tells mbg. And she adds: "Sexual frequency is not an indicator of sexual satisfaction. According to the General Social Survey 's data on about married people who shared details about how often they had sex in the past year:.
Sex at 50-Plus: What's Normal?
Since the answer to such a question is not easily discerned in polite company, it devolves to research organizations to pursue accurate data and dispel or reinforce myths. While many young adults—saturated in Hollywood narratives about the single life—worry that marriage spells the end of stable sex, is such a piece of conventional wisdom accurate? Not really. Married Americans reported having sex an average of 1.
That said, a study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a year, which equates to about once a week. This is less sex, by about nine per year, compared to a similar study done in the s. Interestingly, though, another study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science — which surveyed over 30, Americans over 40 years for three different projects — discovered that a once weekly frequency was the Goldilocks standard for happiness. Sexual intimacy is vital in any relationship, and not just for the sensual pleasure of it all. Sanam Hafeez , a NYC-based licensed clinical psychologist.